Reply to Why do some parents let their kids throw boozy parties

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Why do some parents let their kids throw boozy parties"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are never hosting a boozy party and do not permit high school drinking. Nonetheless, if my kids were to drink, I’d prefer that they be doing so at someone’s house rather than random parking lots and fields where we drank as high school students. [b]While I don’t want to allow my kids to drink, I also don’t want their first experiences with alcohol to be in college.[/b]  I saw how that played out for many kids and it was not good.[/quote]

I really cannot wrap my heads around this. So you want your kids to break the law? You do realize that drinking under the age of 21 is illegal and as this very thread pointed out, that kids and parents can and do get fined and jailed for underaged drinking, right?

What other crimes do you want your kid to get out of the way under your nose or their friends' parents noses so you can say they aren't doing it for the first time in college?

An adult experimenting with risky behavior, which is what college students are, is ALWAYS going to be far superior to an underdeveloped minor.[/quote]

I’ve heard the PP’s message before- that it’s better to try alcohol in high school than college. And absolutely there were kids who went wild with the freedom. [b]But lots and lots kids drink heavily in college and I’ve seen no evidence that trying alcohol in HS minimizes college binge drinking.[/b][/quote]

I disagree.  I grew up in a super conservative Baptist school/church community.  When my classmates graduated and went to college they all lost their minds: it was drinking, drugs and sex 24/7.  Heck, they even went gambling. 
If there was a vice to be had, they through themselves into it.

It's 100% made me parent with more moderation.  I know my kids have had alcohol (11th grade twins).  I'm completely okay with this.  My son has been drunk.  He was miserable.  That was 6 months ago (age 16.5) at a party.  He hasn't had more than a single beer once or twice since.  I wait up for when he gets home (believe me, when a teenager has had alcohol you can tell). 
We talk about drinking, sex, etc all the time.  [/quote]

I also grew up in a super conservative, Baptist area. My city was a dry city, so they only sold alcohol at bars (no stores within city limits).

My friends did not all go crazy when they went off to college - a few did, most didn’t. I certainly didn’t.

My DH’s parents looked the other way when he drank on HS. He still drank to excess in college regularly. My parents were super strict in HS and I only drank too much twice in college.

[b]I can’t believe you think your parenting approach on drinking is working when your child got drunk at 16.5 years.[/b] [/quote]

LMAO! Right! The evidence of the fallacy in her logic is staring at her plainly in the face, meanwhile, she's patting herself on the back for not being a "strict parent," as she's convinced that since her kid got drunk in high school under her watch, there's no way he'll do that and more once he goes to college.

That's some seriously pretzel-like logic.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics