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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give cash to teachers. That is what I do. I give gift cards to all my kid's teachers. [/quote]

OP here. I…literally said in my original post that I give gift cards to teachers. I don’t get them cutesy crap, just a gift card and a note, and then I also make a contribution to whatever the PTA is doing, like muffins or napkins or something. I consider that to be pretty bare bones, but still…all of it is a lot on top of everything else moms do. I think it would be much nicer if Teacher Appreciation was at the end of the school year or something, not right before Mother’s Day.[/quote]

This seems like such a minor commitment that it’s hard to see why it matters that it’s right before Mother’s Day. Also every single thing you mentioned can be done at any point in time during the school year. Pick a week in September and run to the store and get a gift card, a card and some napkins. Heck you could do it once and purchase everything for all six or seven years of your kid’s elementary years - none of this is perishable. [/quote]

While I agree with you, PTA's put pressure on parents to do it during Teacher Appreciation week. And when I say they pressure parents, you and I both know that in most families, this means moms.

Oh, and like a lot of moms of young kids, I will put more effort into celebrating my own my and my MIL this year than anyone will put into celebrating me. Because if I leave it to my DH, he won't do anything for his mom and she'll be sad and I'll feel bad for her. If I want to do anything for Mother's Day, I will also largely have to plan it myself, as I do my own birthday. I generally resolve this by not really caring about Mother's Day, because at least then I don't have to make my own plans.

So it's really more about the expectations and the way they fall on my moms (and never, ever on dads -- a dad who does something for Teacher Appreciation weeks is Dad of the Year in most people's eyes, same with the guy who sends his MIL a Mother's Day gift) and how we can't even create a stupid fake holiday for moms without somehow turning it into an obligation for them.

We just obligate women, constantly, to supporting and helping others, we even obligate them to help themselves. And we don't do the same for men. This is just a really good example of that.[/quote]

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