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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand this thinking.  Dating at least once is different than a relationship, especially one with a significant breakup. I would think it might take multiple dates for your child to find someone they want a relationship with. You don’t breakup when a relationship is good, so you want your child to have a bad relationship?  What happens if the relationship is really bad and causes your child problems?  What if it’s really good and they aren’t ready to break up on your timetable?

I wouldn’t want my kids to have a relationship for the sake of having one. If they find someone they like, I’d be happy for them to date. If it goes well, I’d be happy for them to develop a relationship. But I want them to understand that they don’t need a relationship to be happy. I want them to understand that everything has an opportunity cost and that even a great relationship will mean some compromises (that should be on both sides).  Moreover, while they may decide they’re happier in a good relationship than single, being in a bad relationship is so much worse.  The goal should never be to find a relationship. I’d rather they just live their life, and if friendship seems like it might develop into something more, and they’re open to it, they can give it a chance and see if it turns into a relationship. [/quote]

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