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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks, everyone, for the responses. This has been very enlightening. I'm a bit embarrassed to admit it but I feel like I've been living under a rock. We do have the means to get DS a tutor but just never occurred to us to get one because we didn't think he "needed" one. This is not to say things have always been smooth sailing but we have been fortunate that DS has always been good about self monitoring and hunkering down on his own when he needs to. As another poster mentioned, if a student is in advanced classes, it was assumed it's because they can handle it. I realize now that's a very old school way of thinking so absolutely no judgment placed on those parents who are doing all they can to give their kids an advantage. I also appreciated the comment about tutors getting deeper into the content and helping better prepare them for college.

This reminds of the time when I first discovered how many of DS' teammates on his travel team were getting private coaching on the side. Lol! Again, we were a little late to the party. Yes, we are fortunate to have the means to give our DC the advantages they need to help them be successful but neither DH nor I grew up wealthy, so we didn't have access to these types of opportunities so I guess we are somewhat ignorant to how common this is and how the game is played. Plus no one seems to openly talk about it IRL. Thank goodness for DCUM!  :D [/quote]

Two things, OP.

1. Lots of people do speak openly about tutoring.  There is no stigma attached to it, so it's not something that needs to be kept hush-hush.  In fact, since your son knows lots of kids who have tutors, that means people are talking about it.

2.  You might want to reframe your thinking.  If I told my friend whose kid has a tutor that mine has always been able "to hunker down" when needed, I would probably not hear anything else from my friend about academics. [/quote]

OP here. Appreciate the feedback. I did not mean to imply there was any stigma attached to it. My apologies if it came across that way. I was just surprised at my own ignorance and not understanding how common it was for students to have tutors and, if anything, made me wonder if we should get one for our DS. Like I said, it just hasn't come up amongst the parent groups. What I have heard was all secondhand through DS, which is why I thought I would as about it here, which ties into your second point. I don't know about other parent groups but we just don't talk about our kids' academics much at all other than the occasional "How is Larlo's school year going? "How is he liking high school?", etc. and we absolutely don't go around comparing our kids. My original question was more from a place of wondering ir are we missing out or if we are putting our kids at a disadvantage for not getting them a tutor in this, as another poster put it, academic pressure cooker environment we live in. [/quote]

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