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[quote=Anonymous]Single gay dude who is an anomaly as a homeowner in a professional educated suburban neighborhood dominated by families. A few comments:

Straight men do tend to like sports. Not all of them, certainly, but enough of them. And sports is something they can talk about that isn't politics. Politics, in case you hadn't noticed, is highly divisive these days. Many people, particularly centrist suburban people, prefer to avoid politics or other cultural topics. It's almost inevitable that the topic will drift to sports at some point. Nothing wrong with it. Most neighborhoods aren't Takoma Park.

Men and women do gravitate towards sex separated groups because of common shared interests. Straight women like to talk about children and raising children and the schools. Men don't. Women aren't as interested in talking about sports to the extent men can. But plenty of times the social settings are fully mixed. People who want to accuse me of gender stereotyping need to get over it. It is just what it is for many people and there's a reason those stereotypes exist.

Last, but not least, groups of straight couples aren't deliberately exclusive or closed to gays or lesbians. There is no power play agenda here. If anything, they're more closed towards singles rather than by sexual attractions as it's easier for couples to have social activities with other couples. Think of all the people dining out at restaurants. Couples with other couples. Rarely a couple with a single friend.

A lot of people do meet friends through their children's playmates. Not all the playmates' parents become close friends, but think about it carefully. A child may have 10 or so playmates, out of which two sets of parents become close friends over time. Perfectly normal. Especially as you end up meeting those parents more often than your single friends from your city days.

"Queer" people who live by the identity are more cliched and stereotypical and far more likely to exist in bubbles of lockstep beliefs and identikit conversations than your run of mill suburban couple. I can more accurately predict just about everything about person who calls themselves queer than straight people or gays and lesbians who don't call themselves queer. [/quote]

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