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[quote=Anonymous]My DH works every day, commutes 30 min each way, and works most weekends. I work full time and we have 3 kids (ages 6 mo. - 6yrs). I used to resent my DH, but then I realized that it's because of his income and sacrifice that we live the life we live. I work (make about $100k, but also like you, have health insurance and great benefits - flexible schedule, work from home, unlimited sick time, etc). So when the kids are sick, yes I'm the one covering, when there's an event at school, you bet I'm the only one that shows up. BUT - we live in a beautiful house, in a lovely neighborhood, and I don't give money a second thought. My DH isn't around much (he pops in for dinner, but honestly after that he's exhausted, so he relaxes while I get the kids to bed). He's away most weekends at work and I handle all kids on my own, shuffling to activities/playgrounds/etc. But instead of being resentful, I'm grateful. I'm grateful that DH sacrifices so much to give us a very comfortable life, I'm grateful that I'm able to work a flexible job that I love AND spend more time with my kids, I'm grateful that we have a cleaner who cleans our house once a week (but you bet I'm the only one cleaning in between). I think it's a perspective shift that you need to work on. Am I exhausted, absolutely, but he is too and his exhaustion is definitely more stressful than mine. If he slacks off, our bills suffer, if I slack off,maybe a kid misses a bath or the dishes sit until the next day. At the end of the day, his stress is so much greater than mine even though mine may feel monumental at times.

Appreciate one another for what you both bring to the table - it was this mindset shift that saved my marriage from divorce.[/quote]

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