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[quote=Anonymous]OP, resentment is a choice.

This is the tradeoff to his job. You might think 550k/yr is small potatoes for a law firm partner working long hours, but it puts you in the 98th percentile for HHI in the US, even before your income. That means that there are only a tiny percent of families in this country with more money than you. Do you think aaaaaall those families with less money than you have it easier. Do you think they all have easy jobs and are home by 5:30? Do you think all those husbands are pitching in 50%, or even 30%, of the work with the kids?

No. Almost none of them are. You are in a better position than 98% of the country, financially. The drawback is your DH works long hours in a stressful job. You can choose to be resentful of that, or you can choose to recognize that you have more options than almost everyone else in the world, and figure out which of those options will work for you. If you want to be a SAHM, be a SAHM. If you want to quit your job and try consulting part time so that you can have maximum flexibility, do that. If you want to take a few years off to address burnout and then go back to work, do that. If you want to keep working but get full time help, that is absolutely possible on your combined salary. If you want to get part time help to see if that sufficient to ease the burden, do that. These are all options that are completely out of reach to the vast majority of people, and you can simply choose any of them! Lucky you.

You might have to compromise a little to make some of these work. If you live in a big, nice house in a really good neighborhood, it might take full time help or you quitting off the table. But you could move to something older or smaller. If you have 3 or more kids, that's probably curbing some of your options a bit, and you will have to make sacrifices to make that work (but 3+ kids is not something that just "happens" to peopel at your income level, so deal with it).

Sitting around fuming because your DH, who makes enough money to give your family all of these options for how to run your lives and find happiness, has to work a lot? It's a choice you are making. You are choosing to be unhappy. You have other options. Choose one of those instead.[/quote]

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