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[quote=Anonymous]Raising my hand, part of this club. Not one I wanted to join and I don't see how I can exit it any time soon. An elderly parent lives with us, has heart issues, and early-stage dementia, and is requiring more help on a daily basis, had a recent hospital stay that now requires more medicines, more follow doctor appointments etc. Her finances are a mess even though for years I have worked with her to get "things in order". In-laws who live across the country, who were incredibly healthy up until this year, have all kinds of serious health issues and no family close by to help out. My son will be heading off to college this fall and while I use to think was a very mature kid seems to be retreating into stupid teenager mode. My husband has an intense job with lots of travel added to regularly trying to visit with his parents across the country. I have my own demanding and stressful job. The number one thing people say to me is "remember to take care of yourself" to which I laugh. Because I understand the sentiment, but after a long day of working, caring for others, and trying to move through life finding the time, energy, and joy to care for myself has evaporated. I don't drink because I honestly think I will become an alcoholic if I do. So far just this month every doctors appointment I have made for myself I have had to re-schedule because my mom's appointments trump my own. I can't plan anything fun or even an overnight getaway to catch my breathe. I watched my father go thru this with his mom and by the time she had died, he ended up with cancer and a heart attack followed by death. So I know all too well the importance of self-care. But how do you find a balance? I guess thankfully I'm on the end stages of menopause so at least I have that going for me. [/quote]

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