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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We divorced over 3 years ago. Every birthday party has been joint for both of our kids (although I did get upset 2 years ago when he and his brand new gf planned my child's party at the gf's house without even collaborating with me).

Today I asked ex about making birthday party plans, and he said he amd his gf already have it all planned out and booked a venue. He then invited me, but clearly as an afterthought, and said "if you want to be there." Then he acted confused about whether birthday parties for our kids are planned jointly and attended by both parents. I have never planned a party without consulting with him about dates that work for both of us.

I don't need advice, just perhaps someone to tell me my hurt feelings are valid. As a mother, who sacrifices a lot to raise our kids, it feels like a gut punch being excluded from my child's birthday party.[/quote]

God my sister was just like you.  Her ex had his own life and their child had a separate life with his father in his father's neighborhood.  He even did a sports team in that neighborhood.  My sister was livid anytime anything was planned and she was included, they are divorced!  We tried and tried to get my sister to back off on this joint parenting garbage, it clearly was not what her ex wanted and quite frankly, it did not need to happen.  Fast forward to many years later, her son has no relationship with his father because my sister made it impossible for the father to have a life outside of her.  She interfered in everything.  Get your own life, throw your own parties and enjoy your child.  This is not a problem for the dad, it is on you.  P.S.  no way would I want to attend a part with my husband's new gf, I can't imagine why you would put him in a position to ask you to do so.[/quote]

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