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[quote=Anonymous]My kids are/were like this - never any issues with daycare or preschool drop off, happy to spend the night at grandparents, both could play independently for a long time from a young age or with each other. One is an introvert and the other is super social - but both are easygoing in general.

We loosely practice Peaceful Parenting, didn’t sleep train, did lots of baby wearing, extended breastfeeding, and all that stuff that is supposed to lead to a secure bond. I say “supposed to” because it seemed SOOO important when I was a new mom, but now that we’re past the preschool years and I know a lot more kids the same age as mine, I think a child’s individual disposition is like 70-80% of the equation. I know just as many people who sleep trained, used formula, and have a different parenting style whose kids are just as independent and happy as mine.

Here’s the one thing I think does matter. My husband and I are both pretty chill people. We’re both pretty patient, easy going people. I had a coworker who is a super high-achieving, high strung, anxious guy ask me how he could get his soon to be born baby to be like my kids and I laughed. He’s married to a super high-achieving, always busy, ambitious woman. I asked him why he thought his future kids could be opposite of their parents’ personalities. It can happen, but it’s not that likely. If you are a needy anxious parent, your kid gets both the nature / genetic predisposition AND the nurture element because they see you constantly being anxious and needy - whether you think you are hiding it or not. [/quote]

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