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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are nearly 4000 colleges and universities in the US. She’ll be fine.[/quote]

What does “fine” even mean? You can’t assume people will be fine. People are struggling all over the country, pay is low, expenses are high, and the truth is go-getters do better. So if a parent has a kid who is a slacker, of course they’re going to be concerned. It’s natural to be worried in the economic environment. Is their future cemented if they’re a high school slacker? No of course not. We all know many slackers who ended up being quite successful! However, it’s also true that many slackers have stayed slackers, and many hustlers have gone on to do very very well for themselves. [/quote]

I think seeing a kid who doesn't do their homework as a slacker is off. Sure, maybe they are a slacker. But they may also be working hard at things they value, and not working at things they think are (in the immortal words of Holden Caulfied) phony. School and all its nonsense is phony. Friends, relationships, sports, whatever - that is real to teens. At some point they will grow up, and start being motivated by needing to not eat cat food, but the adult-imposed world can make a kid pretty cynical. They check out. That kid has every change of being successful in time. Just back off a bit and stop trying to tell them what they should care about.

Regardless, you can't make a slacker into a go-getter. Your kid is who they are. You can tinker around the edges, use rewards and consequences to make sure they do their homework, but that won't turn a slacker into a go-getter. So why ruin a relationship trying?[/quote]

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