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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]White people?  Very common.   No one wants to inconvenience themselves. And when you are socializing there is a lot of inconvenienceing yourself.

Imagine how hard it is when you are hosting a dinner. All the work that goes in it.

I think you should create a WhatsApp group or something and then try and get a reunion going. Maybe you will get some interest.  Even if 2 families want to get together, you should do it. [/quote]

Anyone who moves more than a hour from their childhood home for work or school or a spouse has to is to manage.

We don’t all live 5-20 minutes from Ma, Grandma and Great Gma. Or in the same multigenerational home for decades. Maybe in Texas? Keep passing the house down and never leave the state or city? [/quote]

Well, you made that deliberate choice to move away. It has pros of course, but there are cons too that you must accept. [/quote]

The real deliberate choice here is to not stay in touch and not have any family traditions.

If you had family traditions, they people would fly in for a major holiday or beach trip or birthdays or 1-4x a year.

And flights go both directions, so the parents and grandparents can as well.

This is about communication, values, traditions and sense of community.  You return home to see them occasionally or you meet up wherever they may be occasionally.

Just like friendships or relationships take work, so does maintaining extending family relations and traditions.

And don’t dump it all on Mom or wifey to do!  [/quote]

+100 my parents and grandparents had so many traditions and fun.  Everyone went to weddings, milestone bday parties, family reunions, etc.  I am very close to my first cousins even though they all grew up in New England and my mom and dad settled in DC.

The passing of the torch will start happening soon as the aunts/uncles are all in their 70s.  Some of my fondest memories are summer vacation on the rocky New England coast with my cousins and the aunts/uncles and grandparents having happy hours.[/quote]

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