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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP after a quick hi with the kids, your DH needs to leave the room while talking to his parents. There’s no reason your kids should be acting out because they are trapped in the room with your DH - he can easily leave the room.

And yea, you need to work on better behavioral expectations of your kids.[/quote]
This. Your kids shouldn’t be forced to sit like show pieces while your DH talks to his parents. They can participate at the beginning to say hi and show off something they did or learned that week and then either the kids or your DH can leave the room. [/quote]

OP here. But that's the thing, this isn't for DH to talk to his parents. It's a facetime call between his parents and the grandkids that he's facilitating.

Otherwise, he should talk to his parents on his commute or after kids are asleep so that they aren't taking time away from the kids.

Reading these responses though, I guess I'm unreasonable and we should just keep facetiming. [/quote]

I'm a NP, but OP: how did you come to this conclusion? 
I get that most responses didn't directly address the question of "how do I get my kids to talk to my in-laws directly without going nuts" but most people agree forcing them into long FaceTimes isn't reasonable?

First, 4 might be too young for a meaningful conversation. My almost 6yo finally aged into talking on video chat to one of her grandma's that she's comfortable with. The other one, almost 4, is too young yet.

Second, in addition to show and tell, consider facilitating yourself instead of husband, so you can take over when they're clearly done.

Third, do one child at a time, not both the children. Especially for the older (?)/more jealous 4yo, make it special. Just for HIM (and it is, since a younger child isn't really able to say anything sensible). Play it up as such.

Fourth, consider practicing video calls with him, and maybe an additional trusted adult, from different rooms. Make it a game. Go over what things are ok to say and aren't, how you start and end conversations, what button to not press, where to look, etc.

Fifth, mine love to press the buttons for call/hang up on the phone, so lean into that. If (while alone and not with sibling nearby) the kid can hold the phone and feel empowered, or have a little stand for it to be eye level, maybe there can help but this is just a speculative suggestion.

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