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[quote=Anonymous]OP is being super vague and I suspect the school is in the right here.

If it's the same child hitting/punching every week, and there is no improvement in behavior even after the teacher disrupts the behavior and talks to them each time, I can see being frustrated and wanting a more proactive approach. Especially if it were a case of the same child hitting specifically YOUR kid every week -- I would absolutely be looking to set up a meeting to discuss because that isn't acceptable.

But the vague language OP uses indicates that this is just general behavior in the classroom at times. That once a week or so, a kid (could be a different kid each time) hits or pushes another kid, and the teachers handle it by having a discussion with the children. That's very normal in a PK or even K classroom. These kids are still learning to self-regulate and finding ways to resolve differences or frustrations other than physical violence. Especially if you are just talking about small incidents and no one is ever getting hurt, this doesn't sound like a big problem.

Also, OP identified this as a 5-5.5 classroom. That's weird. My guess is that it's a 4/5 classroom where kids start the year at 4, and because it's late in the school year, most kids are 5 by now. But this behavior is VERY common in PK4. You see less of it in K and also you are more likely to see actual discipline for hitting in K (time-outs, removal from activities, calling parents in) because by then the kids are expected to have better self-control and also there is less time in the classroom to dedicate to managing conflicts or addressing misbehavior. It's a natural progression.

If I'm wrong and OP's kid is being hit regularly by the same kid without the school addressing it, my apologies. But I'm guessing what is happening is that OP's kid is coming home sometimes and saying "Timmy pushed me in line to wash hands!" or "Jenny got mad and hit my shoulder during water time" or whatever. Those are normal events in a preschool classroom and not targeted bullying that requires a heavy-handed intervention.[/quote]

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