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[quote=Anonymous]I'd do a modified sleep lady shuffle, or whatever it's called:

sit on a chair next to her bed and read your kindle until she falls asleep - this might take 2 weeks for her to feel comfortable having you in a chair, not snuggled in her bed.  OR  it might not take too long.

When she's comfortable with that, move your chair 2 ft closer to the door.  Then 3 days later, move your chair 2 ft closer to the door again.  And keep doing that every 2 to 3 days until you are sitting in the doorway.  Then you are sitting outside the room (barely over the threshhold). Then 2 or 3 days later you are a few feet down the fall and by then she should be able to fall asleep without you in the room.

You NEVER leave her before she's asleep, you follow the same method as you do now:  you stay in the room reading your kindle until she is fully out.  But you are moving your chair so you are gradually extinguishing the need for you to be so close

And you do the chair moves every 2 or 3 days so that she DOESN'T get comfortable with your chair 2 ft away and then she needs to be upset and start all over when you move it another 2 ft away.  You keep pushing the envelope by moving the chair every 2 or 3 days.

This will get you out of the room (depending on how large your daughter's bedroom is) in about 4 to 6 weeks.

WHEHTER YOU DO THIS OR NOT, you must start leaving her and moving to the far ends of the house while she is awake.   Some children when they move to a new house start wanting parents to be in the same floor as they are, because it's such a large house.  By now she should be comfortable having you on the 2nd floor if she's on the 1st, and vice versa.  If that's NOT true, you need to get her used to that first.

Now, I hear you on the "I have so much to do" - could you do that while she's awake?  That is, she plays quietly by herself (she is 61/2!) for 1.5 hours after dinner and before bed while you get the dishes done, laundry in, tomorrow's lunches packed, and whatever else stuff you need to do?  (if it's work stuff that requires more concentration, that might not work)

that way when you leave her room you have no more work of your own to do, you can go watch tv or just go to your room and go to bed.  [/quote]

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