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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the issue is that you are short on basics.  If you are doing lots of your shopping in thrift stores, you are probably getting the statement or one off pieces because the basics don't end up there, they are worn to death by the original owner.  So, do pay attention to what's missing in your wardrobe.

Oh, and when you do go to thrift shops, do not buy anything that doesn't fit you or goes with with what you have.  Treat it like a regular shopping in that respect.  [/quote]

+1 Oh yeah - OP, what you're describing is EXACTLY the situation I found myself in when my wardrobe just wasn't adequate to meet my daily needs. And instead of just spending the money upfront to get a week's worth of clothes that fit right, and were appropriate for my life, I spent countless hours scouring ebay and thrift shops looking for things that I thought would do the trick but never quite did.

I would really recommend just going to J Crew or wherever it is that has the clothes you actually need for your daily life, and buying yourself a functional wardrobe. Life will be easier. You will be happier. Invest in tailoring where needed. Then, once that's done, you can seize on the great deals if you still want to - whether they totally work or not - without those comprising the entirety of your closet.

Let me just add that at the time I was shopping like you're describing, I was super broke - even when I had jobs that paid all right, I was drowning in student loans. I didn't think I could spare the money to get "real" clothes at that time - but I wish I had. Even if it meant some credit card debt for a period - my life would have been so much easier. And I'd have saved money and time and emotional angst, too.[/quote]

OP again. I think I do need more functional pieces. I'm thinking about ordering some things off of Quince, which a lot of ladies here seem to like and it seems like they have a lot of good functional pieces.

I have issues with spending anxiety. I'm not even broke and I don't have any student loans. I could go out and buy a new wardrobe right now and not need to go into debt for it, but after thrifting clothes for so long, it is hard to think about (like another poster stated) overpaying for clothes when you know you can get them for less. But like others said, those good basic and functional pieces are harder to find in a thrift store because people don't tend to donate those type of things![/quote]

I am the PP - and definitely try to get yourself out of this, if you have the $ for a good wardrobe. Quince is good but don't build your wardrobe around it. (I say that as I sit here wearing a Quince sweater.)

Seriously, go to a nice store and buy yourself some nice clothes that fit and that you feel great in. I promise you will feel less anxious once you have a good wardrobe. It doesn't have to be Prada and Gucci or whatever - but right now, don't worry about "overpaying." You're not overpaying, when you buy yourself something lovely that you will get a lot of use out of. That's just paying. We all spend money on clothes - and you're not doing yourself any favors trying to save a buck when you're buying stuff you can't really use.

Go to a nice shop with a decent budget. Buy yourself some of the things that you feel are missing from your wardrobe - whether that's a pair of good jeans, a really nice cardigan, a good work dress, some shoes that look nice and you can walk in, whatever it is. Spend some time - and $! - figuring out what fits your new body. What you slip on and feel like a million bucks in. Not what you put on and hope no one notices it's too baggy or too tight. Then get more of those things. Figure out which brands actually work for you - and THEN you can start looking on Poshmark and eBay for more of those. But first, just stop trying to save a buck - it's not working. Spend a buck and get yourself some nice clothes.[/quote]

OP
Thank you for your very thoughtful and kind advice! I needed to hear this. It's very refreshing. [/quote]

You're welcome - I hope that shopping can become more pleasurable for you, too. It sounds like you have some guilt when it comes to dressing yourself, and that's probably also causing you to feel anxiety about this whole thing. Having the money to be able to do this more productively is huge - like you have no idea how huge. Now you just need to let yourself do it.

But also keep expectations reasonable! Even paying full price - even buying some expensive things - not every item will be a hit. Sometimes you'll get something you think is going to be a magic garment and it still won't quite be right. That's ok - it's normal! [/quote]

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