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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the scapegoat of my family. The golden child was(is) just as damaged as I was and am. My narc parent died young, so I never had to deal with what you are experiencing. I just wanted to point out that your sibling isn't less of a victim than you simply because he was treated "better". I hope you can break the cycle of dysfunction with your children and, possibly, your sibling. Neither of you asked to be mistreated.[/quote]

Well said, pp. [/quote]

OP here - my brother was so sweet and funny when he was little, then he was encouraged and rewarded for being cruel to me. It's all sad. I have been able to break the cycle with my own family, he has struggled.

The recent crisis is the first time we've been in contact in many years and we are both trying to be civil, I think. I'd like to stay in touch a bit but I don't know if that is reciprocated, time will tell. He and his current wife are both heavy drinkers and I hope someday they find greater peace.

All of this stuff is hard, wishing healing for all. [/quote]

My brother also is a heavy drinker and a serial monogamist. I think mom ruined his chances for a healthy marriage before she died and it will take a lot of therapy to undo the damage. [/quote]

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