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How were your twins' strength of applications?  Did you have one who was a slightly stronger student, better extracurriculars, etc?

I'm wondering how this works out.  (I should have asked this from the beginning!)  Thx!![/quote]'

This is my fear as the parent of twin Juniors. Their GPAs are close (4.1 and 4.0) with many of the same ECs. But one kid's SAT was 100 pts higher than the other.[/quote]

One of my twins had slightly higher GPA but lower ACT. She did TO at some of the schools on her list. It worked out for both of them.[/quote]

I never get used to the degree of oversight parents exercise over their children. Not a bad thing, just surprising to me. My twin brother and I were raised by a single mother, and she was overwhelmed with all sorts of health issues and sporadic employment. My brother and I were national champions in our sport in high school, which certainly kept us out of trouble. We both went to college on athletic scholarships. I saw what a life of poor choices could lead to, and my brother and I were very good students as well (if not a bit time compromised). Around my second year in college I loved the freedom that came with being solely accountable to myself. And I discovered the limits of my athletic talent - while very good - it is a small population at the very top and there are not too many endeavors where you can discern your outer limit. My brother and I went to different colleges which were rivals (perhaps one of the biggest in college sports) and which sports publications made a big deal about. It was simple to me as I knew I was immature and needed the smaller classes at my school to succeed.

I do credit my mother for letting us figure things out on our own. She was not a student and disliked school, but nevertheless taught us about cause and effect. When I graduated from a top 10 professional schools with more honors than I could have ever expected, I flew my mother in for graduation. I was touched by the fact that she just wanted me and my brother to be happy. She didn’t care or even recognize whether I got C’s or A’s.

I did not hover in any way over my kids - but of course spoiled them. I worked hard to do just that!  Their work and choices were their own.  They went to best schools in the country and are happy. I never once asked for their grades in college. I knew what they were anyway but wanted them to own their work and not have their parents be the subject of their motivation. A multiple All American in athletics in college and a 4.0 phi beta kappa in math. I had slightly higher test scores, which gives you an idea of their actual worth. I never once felt I had to be competitive with him. We raised ourselves from a early age and our first instinct was to take care of each other.  Can’t imagine a life without him.

I ended up [/quote]

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