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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS, an only, just turned 14. But I'm not sure what you are describing is specifically only-child behavior. Might be, might not be. I just don't have any other frame of reference.

I agree with the PP who said your DD may be feeling left out in a different relationship and projecting. We certainly saw and still see that.

Then there was this morning. My DS said "I don't want to have to spend any more time with you than absolutely required" and then, no joke, a few hours later suggested we wander around the mall together following a short errand there (no chance of me buying him anything). He kept his phone in his pocket. I kept wondering what was up. He was oddly content though.

[b]We regularly experience the "I want to be alone. I want attention. Right now. But actually I want to be alone. Only want my friends. Wait, you are busy? Pay attention to me!" back and forth scenarios very regularly. Whiplash to put it mildly.[/b]

My kid doesn't like to cook. Doesn't want to help in kitchen. He will help with cleanup instead. One thing that works well in our family are lingering dinners. Not sure how we got so lucky but lately DS has even started playing 20 questions as a way of extending us sitting around the table. If we tried to move to a different location, the moment is lost and he disappears. Fortunately our dining chairs are comfortable and we have the evening time.

Long response, I know. Could be a lot going on. Could just be your daughter fumbling/exploring/struggling with how to connect while still really wanting to be independent.

Good luck![/quote]

Not the OP but thank you for sharing the bolded. I have a tween whose mood changes rapidly and it's nice to know that it's normal and a good reminder to take it in stride.[/quote]

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