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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe start by not invalidating their experience by calling it "high functioning." That's just another way of saying that the autism doesn't affect others, but ignores the affect it has on the autistic person. And masking is exhausting. You could begin to build a better relationship if you don't expect them to mask around you.
-Autistic adult[/quote]
Advice for getting them NOT to mask around parents? Or most people. 
I see a funny insightful human hiding behind a veneer. It’s so hard to get to the real person.
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There isn't any way to adequately describe  all these people unless individually. My AC was an honor student in school, multiple degrees, high IQ,  got  plenty of jobs,  has periodic and situational friends, looks like she's together,  but is masking all the time. Anxiety, leaves all relationships eventually. All. Replaces people, jobs, residences all the time... like an escape.  Has to start over.  Obsesses over things- collects large amounts of one item to the point of hoarding. Fetishizes  ideas, places.   Is secretive when she doesn't need to be. Manipulates instead of engaging. Isn't interested in talking on the phone.  Conversations  are forced and awkward. She isn't young now, but will communicate with social media memes pretty much only.

It's so hard to watch her lose things that are positive in her life.  We have to walk on eggshells all the time around her, and she can be very cruel. We do because it's our only lifeline to her and we love her. I've learned that worrying won't help,  and she will have to manage  on her own. [/quote]

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