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[quote=Anonymous]me too.

I am 52, have a 11 and 13 year old. My 13 year old has mental health challenges and is somewhere between needing weekly therapy and needing outpatient program, it changes on a daily basis.

My mom is 83 and I moved her to be closer to us when she was unable to care for herself well. She's now developing dementia and has severe anxiety and health issues so she calls me every single day, multiple times, needing things, wanting to go to the doctor, the hospital, etc. The assisted living place is a joke.  I have one sibling across the country who does nothing (and has no dependents, spouse, or pets). I do her finances, medical, taxes, shopping, doctors appointments, etc.

My father (parents are divorced) has ongoing health issues, but at least I am not responsible for him at this point as my stepmom is here.

My spouse is taking care of his mother--92--who is in a wheelchair in a nursing home.

I have a new job that has travel and is anywhere from 40-60 hours a week. I dream about taking FMLA to deal with some of this but I can't afford to do so, and need to actually increase my earnings in the next decade.

also, same here with the money issues--DH has had to support his parents and an older child who appears emotionally disabled/unable to work, we havent saved enough for college and with looming memory care I worry that my mom's nest egg will be gone. I never want to put my kids through this (although I doubt they would take care of me either. I try to be a good mother but, at least with my son, I wonder if he will maintain a relationship with me).  Also, DH insisted on buying way too much house and we have 27 years now on a 600k mortgage and I hate it every day but now we can't sell because we locked in a 3.5% interest rate so I feel like we just have debt.

I dont know if I'm hitting menopause as i got a mirena a year ago to deal with periods, but I dont sleep. Hormones, anxiety, not sure. I fall asleep at 11 am, wake up between 1-2 am, and am up until 5 am, then get another 1.5 hours.

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