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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't talk to him on the phone as much? Tell them you feel they judge you for not having kids yet?

Ultimately, no one's parents are perfect. Since they do not rely on you for anything not sure why you have to talk to them weekly. Do what you need to do to heal from the death of your fiance. Sorry your dad is trying to equate a death with a divorce, he is likely trying to relate but is coming off ridiculously insensitive.[/quote]

I didn't talk to him on the phone at all until recently and I guess I was trying to open up the lines of communication more. Now I kind of feel I should stuck to texts and emails.[/quote]

Yes, stick to texts and emails. My dad could literally go months without communicating with me, and instead spends all his time with his wife’s family. It is fine. I invite him to things occasionally and probably see him 5 times a year for a few hours. It is fine. If I never saw him again, it would be fine — not good, but fine.[/quote]

I feel like you and I are so similar in terms of the relationship with our dads. I'm sorry for you, but it feels better knowing someone else out there is okay and gets through it. I guess i feel less alone. I don't have any peers that have dads who are so much more involved with their spouse's family.

I will take your advice. To be honest, it feels freeing. I'm just going to let go of that hope and expectation that the relationship was different. [/quote]

Same poster again. It is TOTALLY FREEING. Honestly, I figured out what was the “real deal” with my dad in my 20s — long before my mom died. It has been much harder for my sister who didn’t understand who he really was until she was in her 40s. I’m so glad I let go of caring at all what he thought a very long time ago. And it actually makes our interactions so much easier. Because I can be polite but not actually care about a thing he might say.[/quote]

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