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I honestly think that many people who profess to be Christian are in denial about sin. I don’t know each person who says they are Christian individually, so I am not judging anyone specifically. Generally, imo, as a life long Christian, I have seen people I do know, fellow Christians, committing adultery and destroying their marriages and family lives/children’s lives without much mental anguish that they are “sinning.” They rationalize it with selfish excuses, say their “happiness” is the most important factor in deciding to commit adultery, or just decide they want what they want. I don’t think being Christian makes you immune to sin. You will sin. However, you must repent and go and sin no more. It’s a life-long struggle. I truly become upset when people who commit adultery who claim to be Christian refuse to acknowledge the harmful sin they are committing. When I was in high school, we had a new and young pastor come to our church with his wife and 4 young children. The elderly congregation was enchanted to have such a vibrant young pastoral family leading the church!

Until the pastor’s wife organized a church bowling league, started drinking beer like crazy during the bowling nights, and had an affair with a married man from the church. She left her pastor husband and kids; the man left his wife and kids, they both obtained divorces, and left town. I didn’t see the pastor behave badly to his wife, abuse her, treat her like a maid/babysitter, etc. I don’t think any marriage is perfect, but there were not red flags waving about either of them. The church leadership soon after reassigned the pastor (and kids) to a new church, so he could have family support for his children. The woman/family of the married man who abandoned his family and moved on with the pastor’s wife stayed within the church. She was counseled that her divorce was supported by church leadership and she was free to remarry without fearing her second marriage was sinful/unlawful/whatever. She remarried a few years later. The absolute destruction of two families was a terrible sight to behold.

One of my best friends lived with the knowledge her husband was having an affair with another woman for 10 years. He finally left her and married his girlfriend just a few days after he divorced her. This woman is a great great person and authentic, loving Christian. The guy supposedly was, too.

He is now separated from wife #2, and in the clutches of rapidly progressing Parkinsons disease. Wife #2 left him. He lives alone, can’t work. He is dependent on very serious medication for a poor quality of life-and desperately wants my friend/wife #1 back. She is over him and it. She wishes him well but will not allow herself to be treated like crap, discarded, and then used as a nurse by her ex-husband. She is content with her life and says God is her #1 priority in life.

I don’t think I am perfect or sinless, but I feel anyone, religious or not religious, should only get married if the want a committed, life long marriage. They should regard marriage as a legal and financial commitment as well. If they can’t handle that, stay single. If they start out wanting that, but change their mind during the marriage, they should attend counseling and honestly approach their spouse without lies or excuses and divorce as amicably as possible. No one has to stay married to a cheating spouse (cheating is emotional and physical abuse) to be a Christian.

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