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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds to me like you and your DH might be very introverted. Your activities are a lot of hanging around the house, doing errands, or doing one on one things for your daughter. There's nothing wrong with that, per se, it's just that I think what you're seeing is your lives in stark contrast to the lives of less introverted families. I think a lot of your daughter's classmates are probably very good at making friends or maintaining friendships or just hanging out with friends on a regular basis because they or their parents started doing it from a very young age. Did you have your daughter in a playgroup when she was younger, or ever interact with other moms and kids her age? Watching parents interact is how kids learn to interact, so if your daughter didn't witness you and your DH having friends and how you behaved with them, it seems natural that that wouldn't be something she'd be good at now. It can be hard to learn how to be gregarious and sociable if you weren't brought up that way. And again, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with being introverted or self contained, but you do seem bothered now by the outcome. I think it's a combination of the parents not knowing how to approach you or your DH because you've never given off the vibe of being into making friendships, and the kids don't know how to approach your daughter for the same reasons.

I do think you can turn the boat around, but it's going to be on your shoulders. Start initiating playgroups or after school or weekend get togethers with a kid in your daughter's class and their mom. Let your daughter see you take the lead and be social. We like family time too, but it's nice to go out to dinner with other families on weekends and not always just ourselves. The more your daughter sees you engaging in friendships, the more she will parrot you and get more confident in doing so herself. But I do think, based on what you've written, that your family tends to put off a vibe of not being very interested in others... which makes it hard for them to feel an interest in you, you know? [/quote]

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