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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see that you say your daughter has noticed that her classmates do more together, but is she sad about it?  If not, don't worry.  All she needs are one or two friends to be with at school, does she have this? You don't need to worry about comparing yourself to other moms, you need to worry about whether your daughter is happy.[/quote]

I 2nd this poster. This really needs to be driven by your child, not you.

If you think your daughter wants more playdates, then I'd sign her up for a class where she can meet other kids, give her low-key tips on socializing and help her set up playdates and create new friendships outside of the clique. If your daughter wants more outings, you can do those things with her. You can plan on holiday weekends (or make long weekends by taking a Friday afternoon off) and make it happen on one day of the weekend.

But I would be cautious to read your own sentiments into the situation. I was a very shy child. A bookworm. I read a lot and really didn't "need" friends and found my mother's pushing (she'd have said "coaxing") very stressful. To this day, I recall being in a tennis class and just feeling so out of place and aimless and feeling so tongue tied and dreading every minute on the courts... All the other girls were cuter and thiner and more bubbly. I really hated it. I'm sure my mom thought I'd make friends and that she was helping me. I just don't think she realized I was very self-contained and happy in my dreamy imagination with my books. [/quote]

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