Reply to Graduation announcement- what is appropriate response?

Forum Index » Infants, Toddlers, & Preschoolers

Reply to "Graduation announcement- what is appropriate response?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just received a high school graduation announcement for the son of a prior colleague/work friend who I have not seen or corresponded regularly with in years. We do exchange holiday cards but really no other correspondance. I realize she probably ordered a load of announcements and blasted them out to her mailing lists, but do I need to send a gift in response to the announcement? If so, what is appropriate for a kid I have never met- $25? $50? I keep thinking of proper etiquette and what I "should" do...

Just so everyone understands where I am coming from/what my struggle is-- growing up we weren't allowed to send announcements, as my family felt the were a gift grabs and tacky. I know to each their own (and I am not trying to offend others!) but that is the take in my family. I think this has perhaps made me biased and don't want to be rude and ignore an announcement..[/quote]

I could have written this.  We received an announcement from the son of a former colleague of my husband.  They haven't seen each other, possibly haven't even talked, in more than 15 years, although we do get their yearly newsletter.  I have also struggled with what to do.  [b]I do think there is the hope that monetary gifts will be sent[/b], but we only saw this kid a couple of times as a baby and wouldn't know him from Adam on sight.  I would welcome announcements from kids we're closer to, but I think it would be weird to send any kind of correspondence or gift to a kid who has no idea who we are.[/quote]

I agree.  I don't know why so many people are criticizing the OP for saying it makes her feel like the graduate wants a gift.  I think that these announcements are sent in hopes of some sort of gift/check being sent.  I don't think it's that big of a deal to send these as a "gift grab," but sure, it is a little tacky to send them people you haven't spoken with in 15 years.  OP, because you haven't had contact with the prior colleague for so long I would send no more than a card (if you even bother with that).[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics