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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The obvious solution seems to be Uber or Lyft. What am I missing?[/quote]

Ditto.  Is she too cheap to pay?  If she’s still working full time in a demanding job seems like she should be able to pay[/quote]

Not too cheap. She makes a modest income and still has a mortgage.
Because she lives fairly far from her circle, most Ubers are.at least $30-$40 each way.[/quote]

It's expensive to own a car too. She could live at a retirement community, make friends and be near them in the same neighborhood, but she chooses not to, so she needs to pay to see them. Your time is valuable and worth something. No need to drive yourself bonkers to save her some money.

I did the jumping through hoops for mom and burning myself out to please her feeling guilty and all of that. She didn't appreciate it and I felt so much resentment. I was getting sick all the time trying to balance things and after enough years I felt so used and she felt so entitled. I wish I had set boundaries earlier. She flipped out with me when i did and hurled insults. She tried every manipulation tool she had to get me to bend to her will-tantrum, insult, guilt trip, negative comparison to random friend's adult child (who is totally enmeshed and has no life), and more. There was no thank you for all I did prior. She eventually found other people to use and when they set boundaries she hired drivers, etc. She got herself a terrible rating on one of the aps. I can't imagine why...[/quote]

I'm sorry that you went through this, but thank you for sharing. [/quote]

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