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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem very sure that you're doing it much better than everyone else, OP.

I don't know anyone in my circle how does what you claim we all do.

Perhaps you could stretch to understand that we are all complex creatures who can be rational and tolerant most of the time, but who occasionally need to vent our disappointments and resentments on an anonymous online forum. This is why this forum gets heated.

But you know better, of course.

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Where are you from?  That you don't know ANYONE who functions like this.   It's like this in most highly educated areas of the country.  For some reasons most people think attending T20 school is the only way to be successful in life.  Kids plan and mold their HS "career" just in hopes of getting into the best college.

We personally don't fall 100% in this trap.  We encourage our kids to take rigorous courses, but I let our 1500 3.99UW GPA skip APUSH/APEuro/APEng for their sanity and just stick to AP STEM courses. Also let them drop FL after level 3, when Spanish IV didn't fit into schedule with band and AP was taught by an abysmal teacher (had them for SP2 and were not going to deal with that crap again).  But most around us were taking 5-6 APs each year just because "it's needed for college"---hint it's not.  Sure my kid did not get into their T20 choice, but they had a much happier HS 4 years being allowed to enjoy life.  They are at a T30-40 and extremely happy and trust me, plenty challenged.  Despite having stats that put them at the 75% for the school (even pre covid they would have been 75-80%), they are surrounded by really smart, motivated students.  Because the difference between someone with a 1500 and 1350 is minimal---both are really smart people.   [/quote]

Love the lecture on not falling into traps from someone who fell into the STEM STEM STEM trap.  Why didn't you encourage your kid to take a healthy mix of APs in science, humanities, and social sciences instead of sticking to STEM APs?   Let me guess -- because you made the "I have a STEM kid" calculation and you put your money on them getting into a strong STEM program based on taking a rigorous STEM load.  You were gunning in your own way so maybe cut the sanctimony a little.  [/quote]

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