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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This person is not worth the energy you are putting into your anger.[/quote]

And that anger is giving this person a prime spot, THE prime spot, in your mental real estate, OP. In essence this person is, to put it crudely, "winning" against you, even after the abuse is long over, by taking up so much of your emotional and mental time and energy.

For those reasons, this stranger is begging you to get back into therapy, or, if you're still in therapy, to tell your therapist more fully exactly what you told us here. Maybe change therapists if you have one but for some reason aren't being this frank with the therapist as you are anonymously here. We can advise all day, and you'll get posts asking you for more and more details here "so we can help you better" etc. (often these come from people who just get kicks out of all the gory details--don't feed those beasts). But you need to see a professional to evict this person from your mind. Your life is being impaired and that gives this person power over you. I won't say, "Just stop giving this person power over you" becuase it is so hard to do that on one's own. See a new therapist, or tell your current one your whole, raw, angry truth, or restart therapy if you've stopped it, but you need help to take back your life and thoughts. You deserve to have your true self back and that cannot happen with just venting to strangers online. Please, please get help.[/quote]

You don't get it. My therapist knows I feel this way. Have you ever been through this? If not, you don't get it.

And yes, I'm aware that this person is winning, that they have won. That's the whole point. No matter what I do I can never get back what they took.

Also, I'm not sharing any details here, I'm not stupid.[/quote]

I am not in the same boat but my therapy has only amplified my bitter feelings. I think we could both be helped by seeking healing in another outlet. [/quote]

OP here. I wouldn't say therapy amplifies my bitter feelings. It does feel good to express my feelings and to have someone who will say to me "yes, this was unfair, yes this was wrong, yes you deserve better." I have gotten something out of therapy.

But this idea that you can be treated like this and then go to therapy and one day be healed... I just don't believe that any more. It follows you forever. There's all this research on the impact of abuse on your central nervous system, and I believe it. It just lives in you. I'll never be unmarked by this. I sometimes think if I could just go live in a monastery in silence and nature and meditate 12 hours a day I could find some kind of peace or acceptance. But I can't do that, I have live in this world where I have responsibilities and obligations. I can't even move away from the city where this all happened, I can't even move out of the house I was living in at the time. There is no escaping it, I will always have to carry this and it sucks.[/quote]

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