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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that you are unintentionally / intentionally reinforcing this behavior. You need to teach a replacement behavior. "I can't pick you up right now, but I can draw with you / play game / do fashion show" Then sit down and start doing that thing. "Oh, I wish Larlo was here to play candyland. She is so good at spinning the spinner." Get her excited about being with you in another way. She has trained you that her crying is more than you want to deal with, so she gets her way.

What if carrying was eating ice cream exclusively, staying up until 10pm, running in the street, or cutting her own things with adult scissors? You would say no, offer alternative, ride out the tantrum, and repeat until it stuck. Right now, you are in that same loop, but hugging / carrying / holding instead of running into traffic. A few days of being consistent and "tough" and not giving in and she will learn the new routine.

There is a GREAT section of Whole Brain Child that talks about routine and association that might help you.

This is hard and it sucks and the end of the day when everyone is spent is the worst time to be consistent, but a few hard weeks and your life will feel so much better. [/quote]

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