Reply to 4.5 yr old hits me and throws things when he has a meltdown/tantrum

Forum Index » Infants, Toddlers, & Preschoolers

Reply to "4.5 yr old hits me and throws things when he has a meltdown/tantrum "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends on the kid.  Walk away, or put them in their room till they calm down, time out nanny style and apologize.[/quote]

As a preschool teacher, this is basically my advice but it sounds like you need to do some basic teaching about emotions and give him some self soothing strategies first. As to if it is normal…if you mean is it something most kids do, no, it is not. If by normal you are asking if it’s a sign of something more serious (like a potential diagnosis), not necessarily. I’ve worked with literally hundreds of children over my career and only a handful exhibited this kind of behavior. I work in a public elementary that goes to fifth grade so I’ve been able to see many of the kids grow past my program. Some went on to be diagnosed with other things but most did not. For most kids, the behavior can be extinguished by caregivers acting calmly and consistently restating rules and consequences. “We use our words when we are mad/sad. We do not hit. Take a break in your cool down spot until you are calm.” I highly recommend some time watching Daniel Tiger together. And spend some time when he isn’t angry talking about how anger feels in your body, how he can recognize it and begin to self sooth before he erupts. [/quote]

So do everyone's kids respond to the Daniel Tiger techniques?  And stay in their cool down spots when you tell them to?  I feel like I must be Doing It Wrong because my 4yo just totally loses her sh-t still and hits, knocks things over, etc. when something doesn't go her way.  She doesn't do this at preschool, only at home with us.  Her pediatrician said it was common for kids to hold it together all day and then let it out at home, but I don't know now. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics