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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like maybe the girl's mother has ADD as well, and that's why she's having trouble managing the schedule and parenting. Or maybe she's backing away because she realized she doesn't like the new togetherness as much as she thought she would. Or because the daughter doesn't like it, or doesn't like her dad's house. It kinda sucks, honestly, to be the visiting older child in a little-kid zone and in a family that revolves around the needs of younger children.

Ask yourself if you really, truly want a teenager in your weekday life. Really. With normal teen behaviors and a teen schedule and lots of homework and needing to be taken places and struggling with ADD at every part of the day?

Personally, I think it really is best for a child with ADD to have one single home. It's a bummer for your DH, but this isn't about him, it's about what's best for his daughter. He chose to get his girlfriend pregnant, and he and a lot of other people are paying the consequences for a very long time. It is what it is. He shouldn't expect to get what he wants. Nobody else is![/quote]

OP here. That is possible. It’s just hard for her to commit to things and is just always running late, disheveled, etc. Like I said earlier, she says so often “I just don’t know what to do with her” but also won’t ask DH for help. He offers, and she’s like OK GREAT!, and then fails to execute. DD spends a lot of time at her aunts house, so she transitions a lot there. Maybe she just doesn’t like spending as much time with dad, that is very possible. We definitely have more rules, expectations, etc. (Obviously age appropriate), but with mom and aunt, it’s a free for all. Definitely would be more appealing to most kids! Regardless, it is what it is, these are some of the consequences of having kids and not staying together. Hopefully things just continue to improve for DD. [/quote]

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