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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People should never ever say this. I will say, though, that the most miserable special needs parents I know have one child. Having other children without special needs is a relief and a joy and helps balance it out. Feel free to disagree, but it’s been my observation at all of the many many many special needs settings we have been in. And then of course, there are those parents with multiple kids with special needs, which has to be so very hard. So, I get it. [/quote]

I mean, maybe if they wanted more than one kid. I never wanted more than one kid and that hasn't changed just because my one kid has medical issues and physical and intellectual disabilities. I didn't expect to have a kid with disabilities, and there was definitely grief involved with her diagnoses, but the reality is that I've accepted who she is and love her for it, and don't need a "normal" kid to make up for her perceived deficiencies. DH, on the other hand, always wanted more kids and feels her disabilities more acutely, but he accepts that we're at the max of what we can handle in terms of her needs and our demanding jobs and acknowledges that, under these conditions, another kid would not set him up for a life he'd want to live. [/quote]

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