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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, my SIL. Favorite child and only girl, special and close relationship w my MIL (lots of fancy spa weekends, concert trips, dinners out), and she also had the first and favorite grandchild who could never be told "no" to anything she wanted.

Ended up addicted to opioid painkillers which led to massive overspending and lying about why to continue to get massive $ bailouts from doting/enabling ILs.

For a long time my ILs would just laugh off how impulsive and vivacious she is, then when things went steadily downhill they fretted that no one had ever had as hard a life as SIL. Then they eventually realized that she was playing them and they were angry and hurt, but continue to bail her out; recently literally bailed her out after she was arrested for theft.

SIL is very pretty and charming and can make you feel like you're her favorite person ever when she's talking to you. I have a hard time feeling any more empathy for her at this point because it's been almost two decades of lies and manipulation that she will never have the personal insight to ever experience any kind of remorse for.

Sadly, there are even worse things that I can't write here because they are too easy to identify. I have tried to have compassion for her, but her recklessness has made it difficult. Helping her financially would be wasteful because I don't think there will ever be enough money to outpace her problems.

We live far away from her. My H keeps in touch with her and worries about her. I tried to keep in touch but have learned over the years that she is only interested in communicating if she needs something from me. I talk to her at family gatherings at the same chit chat level that I would use with a stranger in line with me at the grocery store.

It will be interesting to see what happens when my inlaws die; I think there will be an inheritance that should be enough to support her reasonably for the rest of her life, but my guess is that she will blow through it like a jackpot winner.[/quote]

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