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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People should never ever say this. I will say, though, that the most miserable special needs parents I know have one child. Having other children without special needs is a relief and a joy and helps balance it out. Feel free to disagree, but it’s been my observation at all of the many many many special needs settings we have been in. And then of course, there are those parents with multiple kids with special needs, which has to be so very hard. So, I get it. [/quote]

It could be that the 'most miserable special needs parents' you know are the ones with their hands already more than full and are therefore the least able to handle another child. In other words, being less miserable in the first place allowed the other families to have another child, rather than your assumption that having the other child lessened the misery.

Also, of course, many special needs have a genetic component, so people have to consider those odds, too. That next kid may have special needs as well, thus doubling any misery!

Your statement also kind of assumes that kids with special needs don't provide joy in and of themselves, which is generally not the case.[/quote]

Ok, I mean, it sounds like you’re generally determined to find fault and be miserable, so I’m sure it will work out that way.[/quote]

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