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[quote=Anonymous]In addition to accepting that they are adults, try to give so much grace to the spouse who is healthier or doing more caregiving. It’s so, so hard and I think the vast majority of humans can’t do it without deploying delusion and denial. Otherwise they’d breakdown. And a breakdown does often happen to the caregiver - mental or physical or both. The PP is frustrated that their mom won’t take their Dad for a UTI appointment but she may just not have the capacity and she’s convinced herself it’ll go away. It’s really frustrating to deal with someone refusing reality, I know! Denial is a POWERFUL drug but it can be all they have so sometimes instead of fighting it you have to just hear it as “I absolutely don’t have the bandwidth to accept that fact staring me in the face” and decide if it’s important enough for you to step in and find away to accommodate the denial. [/quote]
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