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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a lot of magical thinking here. If you hire a housekeeper to entertain mom, you need to pay her for the lost time cleaning other houses. If you hire a chef you need to do the same. You cannot exploit people's kindness.

Going to a community center with her to help her make a friend isn't going to solve your problems. A higher functioning elderly person is not looking for a friend with more needs. If you find someone with similar needs, they will both need some supervision and in time the needs will grow. If your mom declines faster, the friend may dump her.

Elderly with many friends they had for decades often find if they decline faster than their friends, the friends fade off. Sometimes it's too heartbreaking for the friends to see, sometimes they have their own medical issues, and sometimes it was just a superficial friendship.

You need to think long term about what is best for her and what is best for your family you created. Don't count on a housekeeper/chef/new friend to suddenly make it much easier. Maybe it will help for a week or a month, but not for long term.[/quote]

So what is your actual advice to OP. You’ve just listed problems with other people’s advice.[/quote]

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