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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a teacher (and a parent), I am always surprised when a kid tells some story to their parents about what happened in class and the parent refuses to believe that what the kid said isn't true. First of all, kids perceive things differently because they feel like they are under a microscope, but also, kids lie. They lie to get out of trouble, avoid blame or work, and for tons of other weird reasons.[b] A parent refusing to believe an adult who is partnering with them in their child's education is a betrayal.[/b] Public service announcement: your kid tells untruths. It's developmentally appropriate. You're not a bad parent when this happens. [/quote]

Umm, no.  While it’s possible that a kid is lying, it is also possible that a teacher is lying.  We have had first hand irrefutable experience of the latter on more than one occasion.

PSA: Kids tell untruths, but sometimes adults do too.  Adults are not automatically to be believed over kids (that kind of environment enables abuse - both sexual abuse and white privilege).  If lying is developmentally appropriate, then teachers should expect a certain amount of it and have strategies to deal with it.  It’s school, not a cult where students and parents have to believe every word that comes out of a teacher’s mouth.

And, kids “perceive things differently,” it’s because they have a different perception than you, not necessarily that they are lying.

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I remember indicative lying teachers from when I was in HS. One even accused me for being part of a gang of students that was in subordinate because I had dropped her class. She saw me 50 ft down the hall at my locker and decided even though I said nothing to her that I was part of  gang of students that were yelling at her.  I ended up getting suspended for a week just because it was my word against hers. So in fact, 30 years later I haven't forgot that teacher do in fact lie.[/quote]

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