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[quote=Anonymous]I posted already, but now am confused. In the first post you implied your siblings say everything is your problem with the parents, but in another post you say your sister wants your clearly impaired mom in MC. You also say your dad is very high functioning, yet you also say he sees this as sustainable. It sounds like you have some magical thinking and your sister is saying if you insist all is well then it will be your problem to deal with emergencies.

After dealing with enough emergencies myself and seeing what a mess things were with my parents and my sister resisting placing them in a safer situation where there are people to deal with emergencies, I also had to say,  that is fine, but it is now your job to put out fires.

I also hear from you and a lot of people here some very rigid and jaded thinking about Memory Care. Memory care was a Godsend in our situation. Heck, OP you even said you visit some. I cannot imagine every single one you saw was just dreadful. Make sure you aren't looking at MC and thinking of the needs of mom as she used to be vs. looking at it and thinking of the person mom is now. Some of the activities my dad loved at MC were things he would have never participated in when he was a say high powered 55 year old. [/quote]

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