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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, I would not invite them. It’s time to let your kid make their own decisions. [/quote]
No, 10 year olds do not make their own decisions. It’s fine for them to choose their guest list and also for the parents to invite someone as well. I’d invite her. If it were a small party, I would feel differently.[/quote]

OP here. This is exactly it. This is a large venue, not some intimate party. This may be the last large venue and I want to invite the family friend.[/quote]
Do you know the dynamic between your kid and friend’s kid? Have they had a falling out, or an incident between them? I wouldn’t force my 10 year to include someone at their birthday that they have had a falling out with or something transpired between them. [/quote]

There was no falling out. They were never close. The mom and I are close and so are Dh and the dad. I guess the family friend is not cool. Family friend is slightly overweight, not that it should matter at all. [/quote]
10 is the age where making your kid include someone that you admit they have never been close with is going to lead to resistance from your kid. Your friend realizes the kids aren’t friends, right? At some point you will have to rip the bandaid off this because even if you have a small party at your home next year you’ll have to tell your friend why her kid isn’t invited unless you plan on forcing this into eternity. Does the friends kid even want to go? By age 10 going to a party where they don’t know/aren’t friends with the other kids would have gotten a hard pass from my kids. Are you and your friend in the cycle of forcing the kids to do things like this even though the kids would be perfectly fine not being forced together? [/quote]

This.

OP, stop trying to force the friendship between your child and your friend’s child.  That’s the issue here. [/quote]

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