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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Post more details about your work situation in the Careers forum so you can get advice on if it’s actually toxic or it’s your anxiety talking

2) Hire a lot of help. I don’t know a single WOHM who doesn’t have PT or FT help like nanny, au pair, housekeeper who does laundry and meal prep[/quote]

Everyone always suggests (2) but they never acknowledge that hiring is a job in and of itself, and for someone overwhelmed already it can be too much to place yet one more demanding task on their plate.  Place job ads, schedule interviews, etc.  Not to mention that the "help" is often just sh*tty.  Seriously.  Nannies who expect $25/hour to stare at their phones, dogwalkers who do not walk the dogs, we've had them all.  [/quote]

Short term pain, long term gain. And IME, the people who consistently complain about terrible help are just… terrible employers. Bad at choosing, bad at managing, bad at compensating, unpleasant to interact with. My neighbors have gone through a nanny a year for the past five years. They blame the nannies too. Meanwhile, we have had the same lovely nanny for seven years and, if all goes well, for several more. She is not perfect but she is overall great. I have also helped connect some of her friends with our friends who were looking to employ, and those relationships have turned out well too.[/quote]

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