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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for all the advice so far. I should have been more specific: Both my other child and myself are in excellent shape. Honestly, I know more about fitness and food than most people. Perhaps that is where the problem lies - I make too much of a big deal over exercise and eating right. I have some junk food in the house, but not a lot. I made nothing forbidden because I didn't think that was the right way to go. I model the right behavior, but it has no impact.  Because I also have a diet-obsessed mom I go out of my way not to specifically talk about diets, but about healthy eating. I almost feel like I'm doing her a disservice by *not* talking about it, but I'm afraid. I'm sure she knows! That's why I was thinking about a professional; I would still have to figure out a way to get her there, but it wouldn't be me doing the talking. [/quote]

OP, I'm trying to say this nicely, but could it be your attitude? You say you and your other DC are in excellent shape and that you know more about fitness and food than other people. You also say that you make a big deal about exercise and healthy eating. Modeling good behavior is great, but it ceases to be modeling when you're talking about all your healthy habits. That's not modeling; that's lecturing.  Do you think maybe she's feeling a little insecure because she is feeling somewhat less than excellent compared to the two of you?  Could you be getting a little push back when she's listening to your discussions of healthy food and exercise.

I am 100% sure she knows. If your pediatrician finds her weight to be of concern, discuss it with the doc before and perhaps the ped (although lots of peds have noclue about nutrition) will be able to talk to her in a more neutral way. If you try getting her to go to a nutritionist if the whole family isn't going, you might as well get a big sign that says  "you are too fat and you are unacceptable to me."

I know you love her and want what is best for, but she might need to take a different path to get there.

Signed,

The fat daughter to the really thin and healthy mother. And sister to the really thin and healthy sister and brother.

I eventually got to the healthy place at my own pace and in my own way. [/quote]

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