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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it bothers you because it's a power play. It is probably wholly unconscious, but what she is doing is not acknowledging your expertise.  BUT, it's probably because to do so means her recognizing you are an adult and it threatens the mom-daughter bond for her, on some level. And she wants to keep that bond.

So it's harmless.

My mom made my brother executor of her estate. I graduated from Harvard Law School and he is a railroad engineer.  If I can let that go, you can let this go.  I believe in you![/quote]

I think it's a power play, but on both sides. OP is wanting to be acknowledged as an expert, and is mad that her mom isn't acknowledging it. Just as her mom is digging in. If OP comments every time, she is definitely part of the power play.

If you want to stop, stop. It's that's easy. I wanted to stop yelling at my kids, and I just decided I would stop and I did. I also acknowledged a root problem that I was actually mad at myself for not allowing enough time to get out of the door, but taking it out on my kids. I suspect there is something deeper with OP. [/quote]

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