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[quote=Anonymous]Op, this is not your issue even if she becomes your dil. My mom died of bc in her 40’s. The BRCA genes were discovered 10 or so years later. I asked my ob-gyn if I should get tested - I was in my late 20’s, IIRC. She said to wait until I was done having kids (I wasn’t even married then), wait until I was close to my mom’s age of diagnosis and do it when I would be ready to take action (ie have prophylactic surgery). I’ve mentioned this many times to other doctors and they all said this was good advice. I got tested at 40, was positive and had surgery to remove my ovaries and also had a prophylactic double mastectomy. One of my siblings got tested and the other didn’t - his choice. Not everyone wants to know.

Also, just bc two sisters had it doesn’t mean it is genetic. A cousin by marriage to me had it as did 2 sisters - no BRCA or other gene.

Finally, I have two kids in their early 20’s. They know about their risk. Their doctor says it is way too early to test.

I’m not sure what you are worried about - that your future grandchildren may be at increased risk for BRCA cancers or if you sincerely care about this woman. More likely than not, she has discussed her risks with her doctor and will start mammograms early and has a plan. You do not need to know that plan unless she decides to share. The fact that you are discussing this behind her back is appalling. [/quote]

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