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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but here goes:

My 25 year old sister in law is mentally challenged.  ....
  We've diagnosed her as OCD, per Dr. Google, but Lord only knows what else is wrong with her.  She refuses to see a doctor for therapy or anti-anxiety medication and will not get on birth control.  MIL now thinks they should have considered SSI...REALLY?  Honestly, SIL has less sense than her 6 year old daughter.  (I Am Sam comes to mind.)
[/quote]Something is wrong with your mil
[b]Why was she not diagnosed with mental retardation at school?
Why wait so long?[/b][/quote]

It's very complicated, and I don't fully understand myself.  In some ways, she's exactly like the character from the movie.  In other ways, she's a functioning adult.  She was in some special ed classes in school (after administration fought w/her dad over her placement - they wanted it, dad did not) yet she can read and write and passed her classes.  She understands welfare and bills and insurance, but like a 6 year old might, she thinks everyone should care for her and make sure she's got her basic needs.  I'm guessing it's part parents' refusal to believe there was something wrong, thinking she was just a temperamental spoiled brat, and partly being lost in the shuffle (baby of 6 kids).  At this point, it's too late to point fingers and say "you should have done this", I know my in-laws feel horrible about the situation they are party responsible for.[/quote]

Rather insulting to intellectually challenged ("mentally retarded") people with children who live stable, functional lives and don't act like this person, and who raise their children with stability, common sense, and without mental illness.   Intellectually challenged people do not need therapy for mental illness or anxiety and low IQ does not equal bad behavior, mental illness, and instability and bad child rearing.   You really have some stereotyped and antiquated and ugly notions of people with intellectual disabilities.[/quote]

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