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[quote=Anonymous]I divorced at 42. My marriage was a mistake from day 1 and I got trapped early on. He was extremely controlling and I had no authority of my own life. I was depressed for the entire decade. It took me years to finally leave.

I did not divorce thinking I would find another person. That is OP's problem. That is not a reason to divorce. Only divorce if being single forever is better than staying married.

Exception: if someone is with an abuser or has a no-relationship marriage (literally like roommates and no emotional connection or sexual connection and no time together) or if someone has cheated for years, those are good reasons to divorce because you don't have a real marriage to begin with.

I don't think it is a good idea to stay if you know for sure you will leave later. That is wasting everyone's time and delaying any trauma.

Divorce does not have to be traumatic for kids. It just depends on the parents handle the divorce. My kids are completely fine. We are much better off divorced than married. But this is frequently not the case.

You sound bored. Only you know if you will stay permanently or go. But don't think you are going to find another partner. No guarantee and in fact, unlikely.

I knew I wanted out no matter what --and that is a huge difference.

Those in marriages with abusive behavior that never changes and years-long cheating means it is over and those people should divorce.

OP's situation does not sound like these situations

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