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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I value the insight and "scar tissue" that one gains through life and am hoping that some of you in the 50+ crowd can share your perspective to help me decide whether 34/35/36 is too "old" to have a child (if we are lucky enough to be able to conceive again).

My husband and I have dealt with fertility issues for the past six years and were lucky enough to be able to have 2 kids (now 3.5 and 0.5 yrs old).  I recently turned 34 and am struggling with whether we should try for a 3rd kid.  I never intended to be an "older" mother and am worried that I will feel that I have cheated my children or will feel too "old" when my children go to school.  I'm sure that part of this anxiety is driven by my sense that I failed to achieve my life goal of being a "younger" mother and that my time line is "off."  I realize that life isn't fair and the best laid plans don't always work out.  I also certainly don't want to offend anyone by saying that 34 is "old."

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If you had children at 35+, did you feel that you were too out of touch with your children?  Do you worry that you will be leaving your children at too young an age? [b] Do you feel embarrassed about having children later in life?[/b]  Do you think your relationship with your children is impacted by your age?

Any advice for me in making the decision to try again?[/quote]

As an older mom, I'm offended you'd even think to ask this!

What you're really asking is if we're embarrassed to be "old."

Good Lord!  Do your #3 a favor by NOT having him/her.  With your mindset, you're likely to scar the little one.[/quote]

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