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[quote=Anonymous]No, but I am not someone who uses the word "coddling" to describe caring for a loved one.

Someone close to you is having a hard time, going through a break up, showing signs of depression, not eating well. You want and are able to help them with some TLC for a week. They have asked for this help, which is a wonderful sign of trust and a strong relationship.

Where is the coddling? Who says that we have to learn to go through difficulties on our own? I want my child to learn that when she's struggling, ASK FOR HELP. And I also want her to learn to give help when she is able, should someone ask her. There's no coddling or indulgence here.

This is literally the way families and society is supposed to work, it's why they exist instead of everyone just fending for themselves in some kind of anarchic state, and some people have pathologized it as something nefarious. OP, your DH is subscribing to some dumb and toxic ideas about rugged individualism that don't serve anyone. Kindly tell him he's welcome to not participate but you are going to do what you know is right.

FFS.[/quote]

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