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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 45. I’m tired all the time. I’m easily agitated. I kind of am sick of everyone and everything in my life. My moods are so up and down. One day I am ultra social and want to hang out. Other times I find people so annoying. I didn’t know where to post - relationships or health so I just posted here.

I know a few women older than me and they said it is menopause and they are on hormone therapy.[/quote]
I'm experiencing similar things at age 49 - lots of barely contained anger the week before my period.  But... I'm thinking that while hormonal issues are bringing it to the surface, for me it isn't probably the hormones that are the problem, but the structure of my life and the expectations of me that are likely causing the "anger".  I work a super-demanding career with long hours.  The expectations of me at work are that I deliver perfection, 100% of the time.  The only constant in my career are that as I move forward, the expectations and responsibilities only grow.  I have 2 lovely children who light up my life, but who also require care, attention, guidance, and patience.  I have a lovely spouse with his own demanding career, who likewise needs occasional time and attention from me.  My parents are still independent, but are starting to rely more on me for administrative and occasional physical assistance as they enter their late 70s.  ... And I'm one of the lucky ones.  No major health issues, loving family, decent income.  It's just a lot to deal with all the time and I have no patience for nonsense.  I suspect my REAL problem and the problem of many of the women posting here is that we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves.  So... I'm letting myself feel the anger.  And I'm sometimes directing it at those who are adding to (rather than easing) my burdens.  Maybe this anger is telling me that "I" am not the problem, but that the structure of my life is the problem and that certain things need to change...[/quote]

I am in a similar boat but experiencing anger at “friends” who are anything but and anger at family who need me to do things for them but disappear when I have needs. I am on a low dose SSRI that is doing nothing so far. I wonder if it’s not helping because my anger is completely justified and I feel disappointed in so many people. In the meantime, I’m expected to be pleasant and supportive of everyone else. I’m not sure how this plays out but it’s tough right now. [/quote]

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