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If you had children at 35+, did you feel that you were too out of touch with your children?  Do you worry that you will be leaving your children at too young an age?  Do you feel embarrassed about having children later in life?  Do you think your relationship with your children is impacted by your age?

Any advice for me in making the decision to try again?[/quote]

38 for number one, 42 for number two and 47 for number 3.  No, I don't feel out of touch with my kids.  That's probably because I'm involved.  I'm in PTA.  I volunteer.  I go to all of the birthday parties.  I host playdates, carpool, spend every day in the summer at the pool.  I attend all of my kids activities.  I keep up on technology and on the latest in things and on the things that they are interested in.  I work at being in touch.  But, so do the twenty something mom set.

Whether you're a young or old parent, you're going to leave your kids, hopefully.  My parents weren't old, but my dad died when I was 18 and my mom died when I was 38.  No guarantees.

No, I am not embarrassed at being an older parent.  Why would I be.

Yes, my relationship is impacted by being older.  I don't sweat the small stuff.  I am so much better at navigating the school issues than parents with less life experience.  I have way more patience  now than when I was younger.  I have the money to take great trips with my kids.  Because I'm older, I work harder than most to keep myself in shape so I am a good biking and running partner for my kids. I spend tons of time holding and talking with my kids because I know it's more important than, say cleaning my house.  I would say that the impact of age has been positive.  And, before someone mentions lack of energy, I run circles around my kids so that isn't a problem.  [/quote]

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